In the name of love(to the female population)
our relationship expectations, and the reality, what we must know.
This may upset the female population and may also get me labeled as the “pick me girl” but I have to say it anyways. I think the movies industry gave us this sense of entitlement and deluded us into thinking that we deserve the world and that our every wish must be fulfilled. Not just the movie industry but also our romance books, especially western romance books and somehow, we got it into our head that there are lists of things a man/boy must accomplish to get our love or acceptance. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying don’t have standards please do! but have you ever considered perhaps when you get the princess/ queen treatment that you also have to give the prince/king treatment too? and also the fact that we don’t actually deserve the world? And that it is not a man’s obligation to spoil us rotten.
We, the female population, really need a reality check and I don’t mean it in a way that our expectations are too high and there is no person who will do it. No! I mean it in a way that we don’t actually have the right to demand all this long list of things when we don’t do it back and even if we do it back it is not the ten commandments, it is not a rule. It is not a man’s job to do things that your father should have done. It is not anyone’s obligation to heal what’s broken inside you. You must first heal. I don’t even know why two unhealed and immature people would get in a relationship. I heard the other day that it should not be called a relationship but a trauma bond. Most of the songs glorify women by insulting the men. Why is it that the men are portrayed as the sworn enemies of women. Can’t we exist without hating each other or making the other miserable in the name of love?
I realized this when I was reading a romance book. The main character brings her friend (MMC) home and he meets her dad for the first time and the father starts saying that he didn’t like her ex because he looked at her as if she was his whole world. You may wonder “is that not a good thing?” that’s what the main character asked her dad too, then he started explaining how it becomes dependency and that a person shouldn’t put his/her life in the palms of another because they wouldn’t survive when something happens to that person. That made me realize the lie we have been told, that love is all we need and the love should be all about us and only about us.
They say there is a fine line between love and hate but I say there is a fine line between love and worship and some of us are demanding worship in the name of love.
